10 Easy Ways to Feel Great

  1. Laugh more unless you feel like crying.
    Laughter lowers blood pressure, reduces stress hormones, boosts immune function and triggers the release of endorphins which produce general feelings of well-being.
    Find new ways of bringing laughter into your life on a regular basis - rent a comedy on DVD, go to a comedy club, read a funny story or tell a joke.
    On the other hand, if you feel like crying, make time to feel your feelings. Stop fighting feelings, feel them, look for the gift in each one and practise letting go.
  2. Learn to swim downstream with the current!
    So many of us waste time worrying about things over which we have no control. Focus on what you can control –YOU!  For example, you can decide what you will learn, how much you will laugh, where you are going, what you will think about and how you choose to feel. You can realise your options and make new choices.
  3. Be Kind To Yourself!
    Take the scenic route whenever you can. Plan and make time for yourself. Plan ‘windows’ of opportunity to do nothing but be kind to yourself. Pay attention to negative self-talk and replace those critical words with kindness and understanding for yourself. In essence you have to nurture what you want to grow
  4. Exercise
    Exercise can decrease stress hormones like cortisol and increase endorphins, giving your mood a natural boost. Negative emotions can be effectively released and transformed into motivation for increased health and well-being.
  5. Struggle is a choice!
    Struggle is a choice but it is also a sign that you could be making a better one. Change happens when you give up struggle and choose to be calm.
  6. Overhaul your expectations
    Be mindful of your expectations and understand that they are driving you. Expectation and disappointment go in hand in hand. First we are swept along by expectation - then by disappointment and surprise.

    Expectation and disappointment will always be a part of life - Check where yours are taking you by making a list headed ‘
    Expectations I have held that hold me back.’
  7. Learn to relax with uncertainty
    It’s a fact, that the only certain things about life are uncertainty, birth and death. Learn to relax with uncertainty, embrace it even and develop tolerance of it, especially as change is inevitable. A sense of control over our lives is essential for our health and happiness but no human being has ever known what lies around the corner. Being prepared for change is a positive attribute that decreases the risk of experiencing stress reactions like anxiety and poor health.
  8. Develop new ways of calming yourself
    Most arguments are not really about right or wrong. They are really about ‘my needs’ versus ‘your needs’. Accepting that this is the case enables us to begin negotiation and work towards a compromise.
    Knowing how to calm ourselves is an essential life skill and means that we can begin to think clearly and resolve our problems.
    Begin by using the 7/ 11 breathing technique in which you breathe in to the count of 7 and out to the count of 11. By ensuring the out breath is longer, deeper and slower than the in breath, it will automatically stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system and the relaxation response.
  9. Stop ‘must-erbating’
    If you are a perfectionist who imposes conditions upon yourself such as ‘musts, oughts and shoulds’ you will be finding it increasingly difficult to feel happy. The perfectionist attempts to compensate for raging self-doubt through excessive control, rigidity, incredible effort and other self-defeating behaviours.
    Trying to be perfect creates stressful living conditions and pushes others away. It leaves us with a sense of having failed and not being good enough.
    Instead adopt a new motto for life, ‘
    Progress not Perfection,’ and ‘stop must-erbating!’.
  10. Use food as medicine!
    Eat a  healthy, nutritious and balanced diet, which supports your brain chemistry and production of dopamine, endorphins, norepinephrine and seratonin. Eating little and often prevents fluctuations in blood sugar levels and ensures that we have good energy reserves without feeling lethargic, confused, irritable or frustrated.
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Louise Hay

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